When negative thoughts become reality.

Am I a freak?
I have gotten myself so wrapped up in negative thoughts that they have taken over my life.
So many "what if's" have become reality to me.
It is destroying my life, my relationships, my work performance. I can't seem to break free of them!
I am so afraid I will lose everything.

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By TrueImage on Mon, 10-25-10, 14:50

Aw, Beautiful...

I'm so sorry you're feeling this way.

I relate.

Negative thoughts can very easily get out of hand, and it's very hard to fight back. In fact, they say it takes three positive thoughts to counter every one negative thought that you entertain. Sucks, eh? All I can say is to keep holding on; you can get through this--you really can! Keep challenging those negative thoughts as much as you're able, throwing positive ones right back at them. Do you talk with a therapist about your struggles with this? Have you tried affirmations? It might be worth it to put together a list of positive thoughts and sayings that you can recite to yourself when you get too caught up in the negatives--sort of like an ED rosary, I guess. Sort of. You get the idea.

Hope things improve soon!

Vero

"For whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God." (I Corinthians 10:31)

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By unimportant me on Thu, 10-28-10, 13:40

i have come to the conclusion that therapists are just a waste of my time and money. i've been in a 20 year abusive marraige which i just got out of. Now i have to worry about everything! the bills....how to get a job...i just want to hide under the covers and never come out. If i didn't have kids (even tho they are all adults now) I don't think i'd be here...i mean what's the point?/??

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By trini on Thu, 10-28-10, 18:01

Dear Unime,

I refuse to use your whole tag name since it is so demeaning. Let me tell you something. I suffer from agoraphoia and would like nothing more than to crawl under covers where, it seems, like I've been all my life. Well, just when you think it can't get any worse,it does. Found out I have a warrent out for me today. It has been out for over a month and I never got the summons. Thus, missed arraignment date and now my world is effectivly turned inside out. Monday must go to city clerk and attempt to reassign my arraignment. And then I pray that I may accept whatever is coming down the pipes for me. In the meantime Can't drive, must face the fact I may go to jail, pay fines, ect.ect.
So what I would suggest to you is be grateful for the fact you don't have mighty legal battles ahead of you. I'm not tryin to be insensitive to your plight or your feelings, I'm just trying to share something with you which usually gets me back on track. Be grateful for what you DON'T have going on in your life. Trust me it hurts. And dont regret anything. Regret is a hair shirt. Do what you want to in this life, and remember God is in the details. He may be waiting for you to talk to him and he will lighten your burden. I know. I did 13 months in a county jail and would not have remained sane if I would'nt have prayed my way through every day.
And miracles DO happen. The Holy Ghost just made an impossible detox for me, possible. No one believes me (except my roomate) when I admit I stopped cold turkey methadone (174mg/daily) for 2 1/2 years and did'nt suffer any withdrawl symptons, other than becoming very manic. I don't know if you know anything about drugs but if you do, then you know it was a 'fishes and loaves'level miracle. I truly believe the Holy Spirit came in to my soul to buffer the blows. And here I am. One month later. Completly detoxed with nothing more than Neurontin and lots and lots and lots of water to do it with. Did not suffer a thing. No leg cramps,no nausea, vomiting, I slept each night with help from seraquel. And I could go on. But suffice it to say there are miracles out there. I suggest you claim them.

fair winds and following seas,

Trini (as in Trinity)

All that is necessary for evil to succeed is for good men to do nothing.

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By unimportant me on Fri, 10-29-10, 10:41

Thank you for your response...I too battled an addiction to prescription meds so I hear you on that one. I guess it's just perspective. I just don't have enough positive in my life right now. The second something goes right, ten other things go wrong. I lost my house and trying to get in an apartment...by tomorrow. Which makes me wanna go right back to going under the covers. But I will try more prayer and see where He leads me...

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By trini on Fri, 10-29-10, 16:08

Again, think of what won't happen to you. Or your kids. On the positives you do not have a warrent out for you.
I don't think you are in the dead of winter and have to find a place to live. Moving in winter is the worst.
So for one thing you have the autumnal winds blowing while you look for a place to live. On the positive side you know there are people on this site that now care about you. They may use different names as they give you sage advice. So you've got support. There are people here that know you can achieve your goals albeit you have to dig in and force yourself past your negative stance. I hate to sound crass but sometimesa in life you have to just DO IT.
And we'll be around to clap for you when achieve your goals. I'll be around.

Trini

All that is necessary for evil to succeed is for good men to do nothing.

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By trini on Mon, 10-25-10, 18:07

Hey Dizz,

I'm so sorry you feel this way, but there's hope. I JUST put up a therepy which challenges you to challenge your negative thoughts with specific positive ones. It is under PTSD. Please take time to read it, girl, Many years ago it changed my life. Let me know what you think. God, I hope it helps you, if only just a little.
Your friend,

Trini

All that is necessary for evil to succeed is for good men to do nothing.

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By unimportant me on Fri, 10-29-10, 10:44

Thank you as I suffer from PTSD as well from alot that was done to me during the marraige. I will give it a shot. There are times, tho few. that I wonder if I should just go back to him. He has a great job, I'd have a roof over my head, etc.....but I think the price I'd pay would be too costly.

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By anonymous3 on Mon, 10-25-10, 19:05

Beautiful Dizzaster, I do the same thing- and I'm going to talk to a psychiatrist about it soon. I'm not sure exactly what may be causing it in either of us, but it may be the stress of just the daily things that have to be done causing the negative feelings. It does that a lot to me-It makes me depressed and anxious, and it took me a long time to decide to go, but i'm going to see the therapist about it. I'm glad i'm going so that I can finally be free of those thoughts and live my life!! I'll let you know more of what causes it after i've gone to my appointment i'm going to make.
~Morgan Rushlow~

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By trini on Thu, 10-28-10, 17:57

Dear Ms. Rushlow,

Hats off to you to enter therepy with that kind of enthusiasm. I did'nt know for decades that the reason why I didn't or could'nt answer my own phone, let alone the door. And getting up the gumpshin to do dishs seemed insurmountable to me.quote:
"She existed in that dream state
in which you run without moving from a terror in which you cannot believe toward a safety in which you have no faith." W.Faulkner
I finally saw a therepist who, not only, challenged my each and every negative thought, but also told me I was suffering from agoraphobia and PTSD (thats what 40 miles of bad road can do to you) and my negative thoughts were the horse they were riding on. Today, I still suffer sometimes but I found out acceptance is the answer to all my problems today (Big Book) If something is not as I want it, examine what my expectations for that thing is and really, logically confront those expectations with the heavy logic that that thing in life is exactly the way God wants it. It may not be the way that I want it but the reality is I may be going through something which in the end will be good for me. Just making a decision to ACCEPT that is a huge stress reliever. And I always think of 1 important quote. "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger."

Trini (as in Trinity)

All that is necessary for evil to succeed is for good men to do nothing.

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By SaskatoonDoug on Mon, 10-25-10, 20:34

I am where you are, but not quite. My therapisy has helped me gain the tools to combat the negative thoughts, but I have only been doing enough to get bye, when I should be using all of the tools all of the time to not get by but to thrive.

Try a journal, keep track of when the negative feelings arise so you can find the trend. Keep a record of what works and what doesnt work. Then when the feeling come back (and they always come back, but they wont always win - you can win!) you have a nice writtien reminder from yourself of what works.

I use what trini mentioned but phrase it different. My therapist called it a list of facts, things you know in your head to be true which prove that the negative feelings arent right. You are loved, you arent always alone, there are people that care etc .

I also like writing things down in a letter, I can vent exactly what I am feeling at that time no matter how mad or sad I am. Definitely helps me, I hope it can help you too.

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