Hi Constant! I can assure you that you're not alone, I too was in an abusive relationship myself. You don't deserve to be anyones punching bag. No woman deserves to be treated like that.
I was in a very physical & verbally abusive relationship for 8 long years. He beat me, called me vulgar names and raped me whenever he wanted too. He was very jealous, possessive and insecure. I was only 15 when we met & I thought it was normal, it was my 1st boyfriend.
At the age of 23 he put a loaded shotgun to my left temple and kept it there for an hour playing with the trigger scaring the hell out of me because I had no idea if and when he was going to blow my head off.
He let me go, but at the time he was living with me so it was hard to get away to tell anybody. What saved me was that he worked at night so he slept during the day. I waited until the morning to tell My Mom everything. We quietly left the house and went to the Court house to get a restraining order against him. I was granted it!
Now, remember he was living with me. The cops came and told me to stay downstairs and as he walked down the steps, I froze in fear.
I never looked at it like I wasted 8 yrs of my life, but took it as a learning experience! I knew from that day on that I would never take crap from another man, and I haven't. I told men that ive dated from the day we met that I don't take nothing from a man, and I'll be damned if I ever did again.
Stay strong & I'm here for you when you need a friend.
God Bless You
Shelly xo

i too just got out of a very long nine year abusive relationship.verbally and physical.had had noone no fam no friends and i lost my kids to my mom and dad.i stay so long becuse i wa scard to leave he told he kept me away from everyone.he was all i had then one day he beat me so bad i thought i would die.he brok my arm cracked my ribs.my face so pooring blood i crawed out the back door and ran.i called my co worker and moved in with her the next day.iam still scard that he might find me..i feel so alone where do i go from here?

Hi Broaken! If your co-worker will let you stay there, then stay put for the time being. My suggestion to you, is get a restraining order against him. I know you're scared..Take pics of yourself so you can show the police. That is the best thing you can do to protect yourself. I know he has you so fearful, but you need to take your life back! I know its easier said than done, but you have taken enough from him. Showing him that you're not going to take crap from him anymore and being happy is the best revenge. Your life will be so much better without him, but you have to tell yourself this, and it will sink in after time. I wish you the best of luck & God Bless You! If you need to talk, im here for you. You gained a new friend today, who understands all too well with what you're going through. Keep in touch with me!
Shelly (((hugs)))

thankyou shell you dont know good that makes me feel just knowing that iam not alone and that someone out there knows how it feels to be scard and hurt as iam..i have tears in my eyes right now..once again thank u.for your kind words.

You are so welcome! That's what im here for...its a shame that our self worth has been taken away from someone who gets their rocks off doing this to women. That's why we have to stand up for ourselves & stop taking this anymore. Remember this, and this is something that someone said to me...don't shed a tear for him because I guarantee you that he's not crying over you! Those tears that fall from your eyes are wasted tears...And, I can tell you from personal experience that os so true! Once I stopped crying, my life started to come together little by little. You're a beautiful woman, its time to think about you & don't stop living your life, he's living his! But show him that there is life without him in it! I just want to see you happy and embracing life instead of fearing it..You are the reason why I decided to support people on this site, and it makes me feel good to help people in need! Don't be a stranger please keep me updated about your situation?
Much love,
Shell