Vic, thank you so much for adding Support Someone to our home page, because I feel that this is a very important section here. There are Supporters who would really appreciate a response and now we can go directly to this section on our home page, ensuring that we help those who have possibly gone unanswered. Thank you again!

yeaaaaaaaaa vic this is great hahhaha,

i glad i chimed in my 2 cents, lol

it was sooo sad for me to see people get upset with not getting help they needed, sooo

thanks alot vic

love
maureen

Brand new to the site. Not sure how to ask for support but I would appreciate it if someone would support me. Thanks.

Hi MsHIghAspirations, welcome to support groups! I am so happy that you are here with us. Please share anything that you feel comfortable sharing with us. We are always here for you.

Thanks to you, Vic! Great work! Hello to all!

Sharing the love :D

I am new to the support group. I am in need of help. I have been arrested for the third time. Embezzlement and two shoplifting. I go to court in November. I would love to have someone to talk to and support each other.

Great idea Vic, as you come thru again, and hi Ms.High Aspsirations, welcome to the group
Frederick

I would love to support and be supported by other women who are or have struggled with sexual addiction. I have recovered for the most part, God be the Glory; but I still have issues that I work on. I am a strong follower of Christ.

New.woman, I am so happy that you are here with us. I look forward to supporting you. Wishing you a beautiful day!

Thank you for your kind words, puppydoglvr; I too hope you are having a wonderful day. I had an awesome one...spending it at my second home with my other family-Church!!! Sunday's have truly become my favorite day!!!!!!!!!!!!

I think you guys carry the idea of general "support" too far. We're all here for different reasons and all need a different kind of support, not just some kind of general hand holding, in my opinion. What kind of meaningful help/advice can a guy with epilepsy in Maine offer to a sex addict in Minnesota or an unemployed exec in New York?? None of course and vice versa. I need to talk with someone that at least has SOME kind of epilepy and is on SOME kind of medication for it. Ideally, of course, I'd hoped to talk with someone in the same boat as me. It hasn't happened so I can only assume that the membership here is microscopic and therefore of no use to anyone. I'm out of here. Nice knowing all 2 of you.

Rick Stanley-
I think you are missing the whole point of an anonymous online support group. Does it really matter who has what. Are you saying that your albatross is more important than, let's say ummm....pancreatic cancer?
Support Groups are like anything else. You get out of them what you put in.
And you expect a miracle that someone else read your post, who has exactly what you have, and answer you in the three days since you posted? You need a little patience, empathy, and understanding that first of all, you are talking to a very select group of people, and althought it seems there are a lot of us support groupies, we are actually very few in numbers. If you were expecting to find an online group of fifty people who have your particular bane, then this isn't it. But don't go dismissing the goodness that this group of many colors and threads accomplishes.
We all may have different sets of issues, but, one thing we can all understand, is a kind, supportive word or two, that we are not alone in our quest for enlightment and freedom from our ills and vices.
Just look at the number and scope of the subgroups on here. It humbles me.
I hope you do find what you are looking for, and perhaps there is a support group, in your area, for your particular affliction.
I regret your diappointment, but life is not instant gratification.

Well said G.. I feel that everytime I post something for someone if it helps wonderful but whats cool about it,is it helps me to
Hugs
Frederick

This is great and so helpful. Quick question, when i clicked on one of the links (OCD link) it took me to the general forum for that subject and not specifically to an unanswered post. Is it supposed to do that?
Maxine x

Hi. I'm new here, and it has been recommended to me that I participate in some sort of interaction with others regarding my change from methadone to Suboxone. I was on methadone for 14 years, and at the turn of 2010 I changed over to Suboxone. I work in a stressful job, and have never taken time off for detoxing or dealing with this (except for two days when I changed over from methadone to Suboxone). I had some counseling during my methadone years - once a month for about 3 years - but that's it, and I'm not really fond of opening up to people I don't now (or people I do know for that matter!) Don't know what this forum is about, hopefully I will learn something. I'm a very capable person, though I'm finding as I get older I'm starting to not care much at all about anything except nature. Of course I get depressed and have low self-esteem. That is all.

I thought this was a support group? It's kind of odd I don't have any supporters. How hard is it for someone to get some support???????

This is my first attempt to connect with others dealing with co-dependency issues. Although i am nervous to be public about myself: denial is a character trait of my profession. I am a nurse, a caregiver, and learning something that i tell my patients every day: speak up. I need help. I feel isolated.

Hi,
Thank you, I am new but have been participating in some discussions, but I think I could use some support also, i can`t do this alone.
I an the kind of person who thinks of others than myself...
I am clean for 6 weeks from oxys and having a kind of rough time today, just feeling unhappy, is this normal.
I just want to cry, I am going to a meeting and I have prayed,but i must need something more, but what?
Thank You So much

I am also new to this support group site. I am not sure how to ask for support, but I hope with time I will learn. I want to understand how to help myself, with beginning dementia, and receive suggestions from the Support Group. In time I hope to offer support also to others.

Excellent read, I just passed this onto a colleague who was doing a little research on that. And he actually bought me lunch because I found it for him smile So let me rephrase that.

drug screen
drug screen

my goodness..
Allow me to repeat, yet again, a quote to live by.

If I am not for myself,
Who will be for me?
If I am only for myself,
what am I?
If not now,
when?
Hillel (c.110 BCE, died 10 CE)

I feel sorry for all of the people who have posted and havent gotten a response due to lack of support. I am here to help anyone who needs it. I have been in therapy for a lot of emotional issues for 23 years now, and if I can extend my knowledge and experiences with you, I would be more than happy to do that..You have a supporter now! May God Bless you all..
Shell

I forgot to mention that I myself was just diagnosed with Lupus amongst other health issues...Again, Im here if you need help!
Shell

I am disappointed. Am not able to log on or read emails from members. What can I do?

I think what would have been a good idea is to be able to send support REQUESTS to ppl. I have ppl on my list supporting me whose support I don't want as I think their advice is terrible and I don't want to be associated with them at all! Sorry for being so blunt, I don't mean to come across as aggressive, but this is sth that really disturbs me!

I'M STILL NOT RECEIVING OR BEING ABLE TO READ MESSAGES SENT TO ME.

rosieq, send an e-mail to info@supportgroups.com if you have trouble with your account and can't get to your msg center on here.

We can't support people by pointing and clicking. Real support involves engaging with people. This system is just like the friending done on social networks. One could have dozens of "friends" that they don't know and have never interacted with.

Is this the place for a popularity contest won by racking up the most "supporters"?

You're right circularlogic, though personally I have only one or two ppl on my support team that I haven't or don't interact/ed with and before I add someone I always ask if they are alright with it.
When none of my friends are on here and I feel lonely or have a rough night it is kinda nice to see that there are ppl out there who support me and cared enough to click that button though. :)

Hi daytoday! Im so sorry that youre posts have gone unnoticed due to a lack of supporters.
First, let me Congratulate on youre being sober for 6 weeks. It's not an easy thing to do, and Im proud of you.
I celebrated my 6 years of sobriety last December. It makes me so mad to know that these doctors make these drugs so easy to get. I did notice a crack-down on Narcotic medication, and that due the rapid decline of people going into heart failure while taking these meds. I honestly took a cocktail of narcotics on a daily basis. I went down to 85 lbs and looked so emaciated, it made me sick to look at myself in the mirror. Everyone has there own rhyme or reason for going this route, but I know that I did it because I liked the high. I felt like I was untouchable and so serene when I did them.
The sad part is I never knew what type of damage I was doing to my internal organs. (Im suffering the after affects now though).
I was hospitalized so many times for taking too much, and at the time I was so high I never knew what was going on. I still dont remember the details. The thing that really shocked me was when I read the hospital reports (there were many) that I actually overdosed 5 times in one year. I was stricken with tears because it took me all these years to realize what I was doing to my family. They never knew if the next time would be my last time. The fear that I may die never entered my mind, and sadly neither did their fears.
Im ashamed of myself for putting them through a living hell because of my selfishness. I realized it, and our relationships got stronger. I dont want you to become a statistic. I wish you the best of luck in the world, and if you need me to, I will be with you every step of the way. Keep up the good work! Im here for you!
Shell xo

I am so lost and feel like I am playing in a losing battle.. My step son has years of prescription drug abuse, He has ran my husbands credit into the ground by getting credit cards and phone accounts in my husbands name and came to us for help again. We just went through this a month ago staying here getting cleaned up and returning back to Michigan where is daughter and girlfriend lives. This kid had ripped off so many people including us with scams taking thousands of dollars from people he doesnt even know and I do not want any part of him being in my home. Oh course it goes much deeper than this, however I need to find some kind of program that will take him in without a job and insurance to get him the help he needs so he can get on his feet. He has hit rock bottom and has to do something.. Staying in my home is not a option what so ever, I am not mentally able to deal with this after 2 back surgerys and many other things going on in our life.. If anyone knows something in the Indianapolis area please let me know thank you

Hey mebeing me....You are absolutely right about not having him in your home, its not good for your health. You need to concentrate on you & the rest of your family. If he has hit bottom, then take him to a Medical clinic for mental health. He has no insurance, than let him try to get charity care. A lot of facilities will take charity care. He needs to sign himself into an inpatient facility.
You can't let him control your lives & jeopardize your health anymore. I know its hard, but he needs to be seen some tough love.
if that doesn't work, contact the authorities & have them remove him from your home. Tell them that he is not welcome there anymore. So, while he gets the help he needs..you will get the tranquility that you all need.
This is the best advice that I can give you. Im sorry that I can't be more helpful. I hope that this does help, and I will keep you all in my prayers....
Shell (((hugs)))

I will skip the I am new here......instead I'll just jump right on in with my Dr. Phil/Medea/Dolly Parton outlook on life. My personality feels like the "coat of many colors" right now. Almost 38 and on medical leave from work, this is after playing around in the surgical room once hoping that sticking 8 screws to my lower spine would help me straighten my ways and walk a less painful path.....needless to say, when I went back to the doctor for a check up afterwards, he told me I had a screw loose! $181,000 to be told not all my screws are tight....I would've saved alot of co-pays there! :) I have an unknown source for the reason of my lower back pain and a very generic diagnosis, you name it and I've tried it....still trying to get my toe outta my ear from the dang yoga pose! Thing is to get to my job (in education) I'm on 40mg of Oxycontin twice a day with 5mg codeine every 4 hours as needed. My body finally gave up and now I'm off till end of school year. Just did another pain blocker, cause apparently along with my S1 joint now jacked, the materials from the first surgery could be a source of pain, hmmmmmmm WHAT! My husband thinks this is a minor blip and I'll be back in the working swing by the end of summer, many of my friends think I'm milking it (no, they don't say it but check out that body language!) and I now think I'm crazy. Is it possible I'm headed for disability, cause my brain is still active but my body is not. I want a life outside of a job that sucks the heart right out of you but I understand if I can't get relief, my house will be my main residence for 80% of the day. How do you not feel guilty for this, how do I even go out into the light of day without feeling guilty for not being at a "regular" job, even though, after only couple hours out, I'm back laying down. I also see a counselor for the ever so fun mental toll this takes and sadly, I'm a counselor myself! You would think I have this covered, that's a big fat NOPE! How does one do this?????? Where is it feasible to work out of the home without selling make-up, jewelry, stickers or culinary items???? Guidance anyone? I'm at a loss, I don't make much (ie_education) but I do well enough that we'd take a huge hit wo my income. Thanks for listening to my ever so long pity party tale! Blessing all, Yaya

my husband is driving me crazy.i don't know how to handle all this.the doctor just revoked husbands drivers lic.now all hell has broken loose.i had to sell his truck,because he forgets he has no lic. now he blames me. i am at my wits end.

I would like to know if having cerebral palsy partly mental retardation. My friend seems to have problems expressing himself, he is slow in everything he does. When it comes to common sense, he seems at a lost. I'm not being critical or trying to be mean, I am really trying to understand what should I expect as he gets older. He has CP on his left side. I would say this is mild CP. His hand is twisted inward and smaller than his other side, one of his legs is not the same size as the other, he walks with a slight limp, his speech is not very clear. What is all of this? I have gone on a number of sights to try to understand if CP is a form of mental retardation and does it progress. There’s not much info about CP and people in their 50’s. When we are watching movies or if he reads something, he lacks comprehension. When it comes to adult matters, he seems to find it hard to keep up. Any information you can give me will be greatly appreciated. He is 54 years old and seems to have lost interest in sex as well. What's going on? How can I help him in any way?

awesome idea!!!

hi Vic
i suggested a welcome room/lounge
this would be a great place for these posts
mike

I'd like to put in my penny's worth ....I'm of the opinion that none of this would be necessary if this whole SG site was given a serious make-over to make it more user friendly.

For starters, I'm dang sure the reason why some people come and go so quickly, or can't read any responses is because their opening intro/discussion remains stuck at the top instead of being "demoted" by subsequent posts. To the first-timer, it appears that no one has taken any notice of them.

Secondly, problematic navigating .. it doesn't make sense to scroll to the bottom, then hop to the "last" page in order to read current posts and/or reply. After all, history is what happened early on and that's where it belongs - in the back yard!

Lastly, what about giving us some emoticons, as well as enabling us to include pics/cartoons/images into our posts?

There are bound to be many other niggles about the current set-up of SG, so perhaps a general referendum should be considered with a view to making SG a cut above the rest......my opinion of course!

Hi there Mike. Glad to meet you.
Yes, I see what you mean about issues with pics, but I think SG must concede that, by and large, we are an adult community with the right of expression. Bearing in mind that Admin has the right to flag material deemed offensive or inappropriate (and should make their stance on the matter quite clear in the registration process), the choice of pictures/graphics will most likely reflect of the character of the sub-group. I really don't see much of a problem, or am I being a tad too naive? Oh well, emoticons will do for starters. :->>> (sorry, that's the best I can do...lol)

loving this new feature! I always check the older posts I have replied to before but this is good as I often feel for the posts that dont get many replies

It's all very well putting up a wall of people who are looking for support, but it would be a help if we knew what group they've joined. A blanket greeting of welcome is real shallow and unless we open each profile, at considerable time, who knows where these lost souls belong? In my opinion, this wall should be viewed in the "Support Someone" thread only.

Again, I am of the opinion that NONE of this would be necessary if the pages within a thread were configured in ascending order, from oldest left at the back up to present time in the lead. And pleaase unstick the opening comment attached to the subject header as this is freekin' clumsy and confusing for new-comers (and us oldies) who cannot find responses to their own posts. Surely it shouldn't be necessary to hop, skip and jump to the last page to read current news?!?!? COME ON, SG, time for a serious make-over - p.l.e.a.s.e.! BTW, still no action on emoticons and pictures in posts!