I thought love wasnt suppose to hurt!!!

renee2, I'm so sorry you're hurting. :(
I don't know what happened that made you feel this way unfortunately.
I love my family but where there is love there is passion and passion can be either positive or negative. I have hurt my family and they have hurt me, but I never questioned their love for me and we have forgiven each other for all the bad.
I don't know if this helps or if you meant something completely different (in that case let me apologize)
Since you posted this in the Sexual Abuse group maybe you are talking about something else. But our abusers telling us they love us is a lie. What they do or did to us has NOTHING to do with love. Love is gentle and patient and never forces us to do anything we're uncomfortable with.
I hope you'll be alright again soon and you can resolve whatever caused you so much unhappiness in the first place. Hugs.

i know how you feel i felt like that when my boyfriend broke up with me

I asked myself that same question. The main ones who is so quick to speak that L word are the first ones to hurt you. You are in my prayers.

I'm sorry you are hurting so much hun! I wish I could say something awsome that would take the pain away. But there isn't anything that simple. Unfortunately, the people we love are the ones that have the power to hurt us the most. Because they are, its cuts deeply and takes us all longer to recover from it. One of the most difficult is love between a man and a woman. All I can do is pray for you and let you know that I understand all you are going thru. I hope it eases more and more each day for you.........

Hi Renee2, I know exactly what you are talking about. Because my father was the one who hurt me through incest, he said those words, "I Love You" a lot. To me the words I love you use to mean, (You are going to be raped tonight). It never ceases to amazes how three little words can still trigger incest emotions. I find it hard even after 42 years since the last time he raped me, just how difficult it is to say and hear those words. Those words mean nothing, they are blank words filled with emptiness when they come from people who are hipporcritis. Those words have nothing to do with love when unloving actions preceeded or followed them. When those three little words hurt you, it makes it difficult to tell others that you love them or accept their love. I think that is why I loved babies so much. I could give babies hugs and Kisses and know that there is no way they are going to hurt me. I have been married for 41 years to the same man, he says I love you to me about ten to twenty times a day since we first met, and I know he means it when he says it, his actions shows he does, but it is so difficult to respond to him, to hear those words and for me to initiate those words are very difficult for me to say. I don't dwell on it though because all it does is rob me from being happy.

As far as the man who left you, look at it like this, IT IS HIS LOSS AND YOUR GAIN! You would not want, nor do you need, to be with a person who dumbs you, who really doesn't want to be with you, who shows so little respect towards you or your feelings. Instead of feeling hurt which you have every reason and right to feel, as well as hurt, humuliation and maybe even feel like a fool for believing anything he has ever said to you or the way he acted towards you, you need to turn your pain into energy and you need to start kicking him to the crub in your mind and heart. Tell yourself that you are cleaning out of your mind the garbage( him), and all the garbage words that he inflicted on you. You have cob webs in your mind. He is the spider, who spun webs of deception, so kick the spider out and remove the nasty spider's (his) cobwebs. Just remember, it is all about Mind over Matter, YOU DON'T MIND KICKING OUT THE GARBAGE AND THE SPIDER (Him), BECAUSE HE DOESN'T MATTER! If you take one more second out of your day dwelling on his non-loving actions, YOU are allowing him to continue hurting YOU, as YOU relive each painful things he has ever said and did to YOU. So when you get done reading this note, allow yourself to speak outloud your thoughts and feelings towards him and his actions and allow yourself to cry for fifteen minutes, then say to yourself, "I have allowed myself, to release myself, from him, I am not going to be in bondage to his hateful, nasty, ungreatful, shelfish actions. I'm free, I'm free, I'm free at last, and he can kiss what I sit on". When you find yourself being drawn back to feeling sad about him, go back to this post and read it or write it out and tape it on your refrigerator, "I'm free, I'm free, I'm free at last and he can kiss what I sit on". Time will pass and everyday will get a little easier. Evidentally, he wasn't your "Mr. Right" , so be thankful you have been saved from all the future pain and suffering you won't have to edure at his hands. AND BY THE WAY PUT A SMILE ON YOUR FACE, BECAUSE YOU DO MATTER BECAUSE "GOD DOES NOT MAKE GARBAGE, HE ONLY MAKES BEAUTIFUL FLOWER, LIKE YOU!"