That is absolutely absurd that you had to go through that and I'm really sorry. I dont really know much about getting abused but I do know that it takes time to heal. My advice would be to find at least one male you can really trust and work from there. It will be hard but I know you can do it <3 message me sometime

thank you! I have one friend who truly cares about me but i constantly get scared because i don't want to end up getting hurt. I don't want him to leave me by my overprotectiveness.

Sweet heart. How terrifying. Of course they didn't want you or your family to press charges. What happened to you was criminal. A crime was comitted. What do you want?

Please don't worry about anything other than finding the support you definitely need. Here is great! Maybe through school too. Do you know your guidance counselor? Sounds like a great time to get to know her!smile You are welcome to write me as well.

Ok. This may sound harsh.. but im gonna shoot straight from the hip.. I am 22 years old. I have a sister your age. Why, at 14, are you so worried about boys for? I was 19 when I started dating. At your age, I was worrying about me and my grades so I could get into college. May sound old fashioned but there is a good reason why parents raise their girls not to worry about boys at a young age. I'm not saying what happened was you fault dearie. But getting serious with a boy as young as you are will undoubtedly cause nothing but trouble( ie heartbreak or pregnancy). You have your whole life ahead of you so live it. Dont let what you think is love hold you down. Half the time girls your age dont kow what love is anyways. So before you go searching for love..love yourself. Find out who you are. Because nobody will love you right if you dont love yourself right

I was very happy before and i didn't want a seriosu relationship which is why he got so mad. I was not interested in boys and i still am not. I wanted to try it out and obviously that was a mistake.

Girl ur lucky. Um, yes ur gonna be scared for awhile for a boyfriend and when u found one I'm sure hell understand what u have been tho. Just be careful and keep ur boundes and stay safe if u don't wanna go somewhere by Urself go w a good friend of urs.

If you dont want to date..dont let snybody talk you into doing so. Always remember :God first then you andf then your fsmily. Dont worry about nobody else who isnt important. -Nicki

Thank you! You gave me great advice!

The 'scared' thing will pass with some time. I know that seeing a therapist can sometimes be a problem with money, but if your family has insurance I would look into that. You do NOT have to report the crime to get medical/mental health care. Most insurance plans have at least a small amount of mental health care that they provide. That can help you get past the roughest part of this. You have taken the hardest step and that is telling someone about the situation. The rest is easy, it may not seem it but it is. It is simply something that comes with time. Having been a victim of various abusers as a teen myself, emotional, physical and sexual, I can tell you the fear does pass. You DO get past it. IF you can not find anyone else to talk to you, you can try your councilor at school as the lady mentioned above. Remember that, I know it was painful to stand up to him and honor your boundaries, but if you had given in to his wishes you would feel even worse. Physical wounds will heal, but he can not take away the Pride you should have in yourself for not crossing your boundaries.

Your welcome hun