Any other parents being abused by they children?

Have you considered putting her in a program that can help her deal with her obvious anger issues? This is not something that is just going to go away on her own, nor do I think weekly therapy sessions are enough. She is an abuser and needs to get help ASAP before she gets bigger physically and old enough where you can no longer mandate her to get help.

-CK

I agree I would look into what programs she could go to ..sorry to say but a juvenile centre where she will learn to deal with her issues.There are hotlines for help and they can assist you in finding what would be best for your daughter and for your owm emotional well being.Looking ahead 2 yrs she will be 16 and who knows what she will be like then. I agree now is the time to look into something where she can go for help.

AG

Girl, you need to own up to your parental responsibilities and put an end to this right now! Why are you taking this from her? I know you may feel sorry for her and probably feel guilty that maybe you had something to do with it but it doesn't matter how she got this way. What matters is she's staying this way because you are enabling her.

If she lays her hands on you in any way you CALL THE POLICE and charge her with assault. If she wants to continue bullying you and not listening to you, again, call the police. They will put her in a juvenile centre and believe me, she will listen to them and learn to appreciate how good she had it at home.

You will be visiting her in jail down the road if you allow this to go on. I know you don't want that. She needs help and you have to get it for her.

I actually came to the abuse group tonight because a couple of hours ago I kicked my 22 year old son out of the house. He is not nearly as bad as the problems you're having with your daughter but then the first time he touched me was 7 years ago and all he did was slap the glasses off my face. I called the police. I told him in no uncertain terms that next time he gets charged. He never touched me again.

On the other hand, he's starting to act more like his father and yells, tries to boss everyone around and tries to intimidate. I told him he is not to come back here until he seeks treatment for his problems. He tried to intimidate me and use guilt tactics but I stood my ground. He used the old, I was beat up by my father etc. and every other feel sorry for himself crap and I calmly repeated that he is not coming back unless he gets treatment. I told him I've already notified the police (which I did) and that they are on standby should he not want to leave. He knows if he tries to return, I will call them again.

Your daughter needs to know that you are very serious about this. She must follow the rules you give her and she must not abuse you in any way. You need to do this for her. What kind of life does she have ahead of her if you don't stop it now? What kind of life are you having? Make it stop.

Hi Christine. The first time my daughter hit me was when she was 18. She did not stop until 18 years later. Yesterday was the first time she balled her fist up to hit me, as she cursed me and said she was going to smash my face in. She is 39 years old and I have not had any say in her getting help over the years. Now that she has been diagnosed as bipolar she is flip it about taking her meds. She has put me under so much stress over the years with the roller coaster emotional rides and the violence. She has been violent with everyone. So much so that I am raising her 15 yr. old twins, boy/girl. I am a quiet gentle soul and for the life of me I just can't wrap my brain around all of this insanity. In 1996 I had a complete nervous breakdown and after being hospitalized for 3 months of that I decided to run away. I gave up a beautiful home and everything. I got in my car and drove to a place that no one would think of me being there (very far away from home). I went so far as to have a post office box in a different county from where I lived. There I fought all the fear, loss and depression demons for 3 years. Like yourself I have given up on living. I do absolutely nothing to help myself stay alive. In fact I have a DNR so no one can bring me back to life. I get so tired of being sad. This sadness hurts all the way to the marrow of my existence. I am so sorry that you are going through this with your daughter. I read all of the comments u have gotten thus far and I have to agree with them. It appears that it is a now or never thing and from my situation I can promise u that u do not want the never thing. I have PTSD so bad that I have to take medication for it and for depression. The doctors tell me that I must find some way to try and live for my grandchildren. Today I told myself that I would work on wanting to live. I am not afraid of death but am afraid of life. I do understand what u r saying about those same feelings. No one should have to live like u r. But friend I can tell u that NEVER is a long time and now is just that, NOW. My daughter is a big girl and I am small and have never stood a chance with her power and uncontrolable rage. I grieve over the loss of the daughter I had dreamed of. Please don't end up like me. ACT NOW. Get the support u need to be brave for yourself, your daughter and all who know and love u and here. Christine I will life your name up in my prayers. I am new to this web site and I am writing down the names of those who talk to me and vice versa. We both must be brave. LaLu

T.christine1964,

in all honesty, i think you should take her to a behavioral health center. if she is doing these things, she has some kind of emotional/mental problem that she isn't telling anyone. if she doesn't get any help, it could get so much worse. she could go to jail or prison. i don't want to sound rude or anything. but you are her mother, and you need to act like one. she has problems and you have to take care of it. if need be, you can sign her into a mental ward in a hospital. since she is underage, she won't be able to leave at her own will. and if she doesn't show any improvement, she can't leave. i think that would probably be for the best.

you have my full support. if you need me, i'm only a message away. keep me posted.

LaLu, my advice above applies to you too. She has to face the consequences no matter what. You should not be living this way. Remove her NOW!!! She's 39 year's old and she has got to be held responsible for her actions, illness or not.

You are not her punching bag or anyone elses. I can't stress enough: CALL THE POLICE!!!

If she gets a record it is HER own doing, not yours. You have custody of her twins. You need to consider how her treatment of you is affecting them. Do you want your grand-daughter thinking people can treat her that way too. Show her and your grandson how to stand up for yourself.

When you call the police, she will yell, scream and blame you and if you think you'll take it personally, leave the room and block your ears. Wear ear plugs if you have to just keep in mind that it is her fault, her responsibility.

Put a restraining order on her and stick to your guns. If she can keep her hands off you, welcome her back in your life. I'm pretty positive she'll indeed stay in control once she gets the picture that you are serious.

Do this and I promise you, you will be free from it and regain your life. The best to you Lalu.