8 mths pregnant

OH Renee, I'm so sorry for what has happened. I smile though, when you say that your Mom will help you!! Mother's are a very special thing in this world and nothing can replace them. I hear the exhaustion in your voice, but I also feel the your burden isn't quite so heavy now. I am very glad that you can start a new life with your children and your Mom. Good luck and hug your Momma!!!

All my love and hugs, Suzee

suzee i was supprised when my mom talked to me. i have been living in a shelter since i left my husband, he wouldnt help me at all but thats ok. i called my mom hoping she will talk to me, i have been missing her so much and didnt have the gutts to call and say i'm sorry. she told me she was waiting on my call. i never stopped loving my mom, my husband told me so many bad things about her i believed him. i was so young when i ran aray to be with him. i'm going back home tomorrow. she sent me a plane ticket but since i'm 8 months pregnant they wont let me fly. she shes on her way here to get us. i cant wait to see her and hug her it has been 4 years since i've seen her. thank you again

renee

OH Sweetheart, I have tears streaming now my face as I read your post!!! Momma's hearts are very special. Sometimes we have to let our babies learn for themselves and you have had to go through some very tough things, but I hear your heart and I see why it happened.

There are other young girls here who ran away to be with their boyfriend/husbands honey. It happens and it doesn't make you a bad person. You were so young and still are!! I smile thinking about her driving there to get you and your child!!! :0)

I am so very proud of you for calling your Mom, it was probably the best move you will ever make!!! Watch her eyes when she plays with your children.... grandchildren make Grandma's eyes sparkle!!!!!

Sending a big hug, Suzee :0)

i cant wait to see her she told me she have been really sick and she was hoping before she left this world she would see me again. i want to be in my mommy's arms so bad. she always knew how to make me feel better. when i had my first baby i almost died and i wanted her so bad, with this one she will be there. so now i am excited for her to be apart of this. i couldnt sleep last night knowing she will be here today. she said she needed to rest and we will be on our way tomorrow morning. i am waiting to see my sister and brother. my grandmother.

that is what my mom said she was proud of me. it feels good to know people is proud of me. she going to fall in love with my little man. he be all other the place, HYPER!

renee

thank you again for talking to me. tomorrow this time i will be with my whole family. i say goodby Florida and hello Atl.

OH Renee, how incredibly exciting for you all!! I can't wait to hear how you all are doing!!! OMG the experience of having your daughter with your mom there is an absolutely amazing gift for you both!!! Truly life changing!!! I've been with my daughters and I am so grateful to have experienced it. It's a bond we all have that's indescribable!! Enjoy your time with her!!! I lost my Mom 4 years ago, but I am so thankful for the time I did have with her!!

I am looking forward to hearing about the arrival of your newest little bundle of joy!!!

Big hugs, Suzee

I wanted to tell you that I read your post and do want to respond but then again I am so tired and kind of can't focus right now or keep my eyes open and should get to bed lol! so I will be back on tomorrow to post something about this cause I relate to it a lot! Well hope your night goes well and I will post to you tomorrow!

thank you and I will be waiting on you post. have a great night

renee

well first I am actually 28 weeks pregnant with my second child also! :) But anyways I relate more to this about my 4 year old daughter. When I got pregnant with her I actually left her father to get my life straight cause he wasnt willing to get his life straight. I was into drugs and acting out and was just turning 19 at the time. I got help and when I had my daughter I also moved back with my mom. It took her awhile to accept me back for all the crap I also put her and my stepfather through. Honestly it was hard to live back with my mom and stepfather. My stepfather still held a grudge against me for all I have done throughout my teenage life and we would get into so many arguements. Not only that it was even hard to stay there cause they took over alot with the parenting and I really didn't feel like I was a mother. I hope this doesn't happen with you. It was tough and I finally just one day up and moved out cause I could'nt take it anymore.
With my daughter's father he started calling me when she was like 2 months old wanting to see her. I told him to go for a paternity test himself. I told him to do this because I felt if he did it would prove that you truely wants to see his daughter and he got his life straight. But of course he would make excuses and say he didn't know how to go about that or even where the court house is. Then he eventually just gave up calling and I didn't talk to him again till like 3 and a half years later just recently. I debated for a long time if I should just go for child support. Part of me kept thinking over and over again if her father has changed over the 3 years. I know people do change and I have gotten my life straight. Plus I keep thinking is it fair to my daughter to really keep her from her father? I had so many questions running through my mind cause I want what is best for my daughter. Plus having another child my son is actually going to have his real father in his life but Vanessa isn't. So I went for child support anyways. Just had my first court date actually last week. Before the court date I talked to her father over the phone 2 times. What is it with men saying "I thought possibly that the child wasn't mind so that is why I didn't bother going for the dna test." or " I thought you would'nt let me see her cause you thought maybe that she wasn't mine" Oh how it pisses me off! He kept trying to call me after we talked only the first time and I said to just stop calling cause I want to take one step at a time and see how the paternity court hearing goes first. Then he thought that sense I said that that I still think that I am not sure that my daughter is his! I told him I already know 100 percent! I swear men and there stupidity! Not only that he saw pictures of her and even said he knows she is his! Plus the timing I got pregnant and the time I was with him I was with him 24.7! Kind of obvious! So yeah at the court date he of course wanted the darn dna test done. He was upset I didn't bring my daughter to court that day cause he supposedly "wanted to do the dna test that day" I didn't want her to meet her father yet. I want to take a step at a time and not confuse my child! I knew they would just have my daughter come in a different day seperately so why did I have to bring her? Anyways sorry men just piss me off! I can't wait till the dna results so he can look freaken stupid! I don't know part of me dont know if I am doing the right thing by going for child support. I am telling you all this cause I don't know how you will feel down the road about going for child support. I always wondered if my daughter would be angry at me when she got older that I didn;t even try and see if her dad has changed or even try to see if he would be a good father to her. I never wanted to keep her father from her I just want to protect her and do the correct thing.
But anyways with all that you are doing it is the first step into a better life to make your life better. I hope living with your mom works out and doesn't back fire on you like it did me. Your mom seems like a caring mom though so possibly you won't have any issue at all. It is a good place at times to get back up on your feet. I am sorry you have to go through all this stress being 8 months pregnant. And shame on your ex for being the way he is. I hate men who are like that. He doesn't realize with him saying that the children are probably not his just cause he is mad at you is also hurting the children and is not fair to them. They are innocent and did nothing wrong. Just cause parents don't get along and don't like eachother doesn't mean you can't be there for your children anymore and not see them just to get back at the other. That is so wrong. I hope everything goes well with you and things start looking up!

@ Suzee I was in the same situation as Renee when I had my daughter where I moved back in with my mom. Yeah I still didn;t get a bond with my mom :( She worked sooo much and of course like I said to Renee my stepfather and I did not get along at all and argued so much. :(